Reality of 24/7 living
The Reality of Living 24/7
By amanda {O'D}
Many Dominants and submissives yearn for a 24/7 relationship, where the slave/submissive can spend their days firmly encased in the chains of their Dominant.
The Dominant often has a picture in his or her mind of a willing naked slave, acting out every whim the Dominant may have. This slave spends her days naked apart from her chains and numerous marks on her body to show her recent usage, her buttocks in a permanent state of rosy glow, kneeling simply waiting for a signal from the Dominant on what is next required of her.
Likewise the submissive has visions of how her life will be, imagining days in which her only thought is to be pleasing to her Dominant; an ideal life, consisting of bondage and total servitude.
Then the dreams of both Dominant and submissive become a reality as they enter into a 24/7 relationship. And we find that reality often does not mirror dreams.
24/7 D/s in reality is very different from the Internet portrayal of the life of a slave. Very few of us will ever get to live the life of “O”. But 24/7 D/s brings its own special rewards for each individual couple. It is something that is unique to each couple; there are no right or wrongs on how to do it. What works well in my home may be totally unsuitable in your home. It is achieved, as is any good relationship, through open, honest communication and negotiation
A large number of D/s couples have children present in the home, at least part of the time if not on a full time basis. That immediately compromises the idea of the submissive being in a permanent state of undress. Along with that permanent state of undress goes the idea that the submissive will kneel and beg permission before entering or leaving any room where the Dominant is present. Try explaining that away to your children!
Likewise the submissive cannot crawl from room to room when the children are home, and lets be honest here, many of us older submissives have knees that are not what they once were, and unless the Dominant wants to cause permanent damage to His property, the idea of the submissive never being higher than the crotch of the Dominant needs to be revisited.
As for the idea of the submissive sleeping in chains every night, all night, well, let’s say that has to have been thought up by a childless Dominant. Once again, reality will catch you out here. Children have a very annoying habit of waking in the middle of the night, for all sorts of reasons ranging from illness to needing a drink. It is not the done thing to have mum appearing alongside their beds in her chains.
So is 24/7 slavery possible? I have yet to meet a 24/7 Master and slave couple that have managed to live in the manner the 24/7 lifestyle is portrayed on the net. Why do so many of us strive to obtain something that clearly in the cold light of day is impossible to achieve?
24/7 D/s couples however do exist quite happily, through compromise by both party and a good sense of humor.
A D/s lifestyle has been achieved in our home by changing a few things, making them more realistic if you like. For example, I am, for the most part, dressed but, when circumstances allow, I do go without underwear. This allows my Master the knowledge that I am as available to him as I possibly can be without causing embarrassment to others. Being naked is kept for the privacy of the bedroom, or when our daughter is away from home.
Sleeping in chains can be achieved as children become older if common sense is used and the submissive is given permission to remove her chains or wake the Dominant to do it, as soon as the need arises. As the Dominant does not tend to take kindly to being woken night after night to remove and then reapply chains, a compromise that works well for us, and is worth consideration is that if I am sleeping in chains and need to rise for any reason I remove my chains and do not put them back on. Keep in mind the chains must be easily and quickly removed because sick children cannot wait while mum struggles to remove herself from bondage.
If your children are still of the age where they enter into your bedroom in the middle of the night because the dark is scary and they simply need you, bedtime bondage in any form is of course something that has to remain a dream for a while longer.
Do not expect to play/scene every night once living 24/7. Life gets in the way and sometimes either Dominant or submissive will simply be too tired. A huge amount of satisfaction can be found for both parties just by relaxing watching television and talking about the day. In this activity the submissive if comfortable can be sitting at the feet of the Dominant with her head resting on his knee. It is vital to remember 24/7 D/s can be achieved discreetly it does not have to be “in your face”.
Be prepared for those times when you have planned that huge night of play and little Johnny or Mary gets sick and play to be cancelled. I have yet to meet a Mother who can be submissive and receptive when the children are sick or when they have spent the day listening to the children bickering and making poor mum worn to a frazzle.
Likewise the Dominant who has just spent an hour battling traffic to get home may not feel like walking in the door and picking up the flogger. More than likely he is going to walk in and have to settle for a drink or a coffee, while the submissive does her best to settle the children and prepare the dinner.
Keep your ideas of 24/7 D/s realistic; simple things can be done to make your lives special and more in tune with the net version of 24/7. For example always serve your Dominant his meal or drink first, this can be done regardless of who is sharing your table.
Can it work? Oh yes!! Are you likely to be able to live like “O?” Not if you have children and you and your dominant have jobs and lives outside the home. Tailor your expectations to fit your reality and you’ll find that 24/7 is a very real, satisfying possibility.
By amanda {O'D}
Many Dominants and submissives yearn for a 24/7 relationship, where the slave/submissive can spend their days firmly encased in the chains of their Dominant.
The Dominant often has a picture in his or her mind of a willing naked slave, acting out every whim the Dominant may have. This slave spends her days naked apart from her chains and numerous marks on her body to show her recent usage, her buttocks in a permanent state of rosy glow, kneeling simply waiting for a signal from the Dominant on what is next required of her.
Likewise the submissive has visions of how her life will be, imagining days in which her only thought is to be pleasing to her Dominant; an ideal life, consisting of bondage and total servitude.
Then the dreams of both Dominant and submissive become a reality as they enter into a 24/7 relationship. And we find that reality often does not mirror dreams.
24/7 D/s in reality is very different from the Internet portrayal of the life of a slave. Very few of us will ever get to live the life of “O”. But 24/7 D/s brings its own special rewards for each individual couple. It is something that is unique to each couple; there are no right or wrongs on how to do it. What works well in my home may be totally unsuitable in your home. It is achieved, as is any good relationship, through open, honest communication and negotiation
A large number of D/s couples have children present in the home, at least part of the time if not on a full time basis. That immediately compromises the idea of the submissive being in a permanent state of undress. Along with that permanent state of undress goes the idea that the submissive will kneel and beg permission before entering or leaving any room where the Dominant is present. Try explaining that away to your children!
Likewise the submissive cannot crawl from room to room when the children are home, and lets be honest here, many of us older submissives have knees that are not what they once were, and unless the Dominant wants to cause permanent damage to His property, the idea of the submissive never being higher than the crotch of the Dominant needs to be revisited.
As for the idea of the submissive sleeping in chains every night, all night, well, let’s say that has to have been thought up by a childless Dominant. Once again, reality will catch you out here. Children have a very annoying habit of waking in the middle of the night, for all sorts of reasons ranging from illness to needing a drink. It is not the done thing to have mum appearing alongside their beds in her chains.
So is 24/7 slavery possible? I have yet to meet a 24/7 Master and slave couple that have managed to live in the manner the 24/7 lifestyle is portrayed on the net. Why do so many of us strive to obtain something that clearly in the cold light of day is impossible to achieve?
24/7 D/s couples however do exist quite happily, through compromise by both party and a good sense of humor.
A D/s lifestyle has been achieved in our home by changing a few things, making them more realistic if you like. For example, I am, for the most part, dressed but, when circumstances allow, I do go without underwear. This allows my Master the knowledge that I am as available to him as I possibly can be without causing embarrassment to others. Being naked is kept for the privacy of the bedroom, or when our daughter is away from home.
Sleeping in chains can be achieved as children become older if common sense is used and the submissive is given permission to remove her chains or wake the Dominant to do it, as soon as the need arises. As the Dominant does not tend to take kindly to being woken night after night to remove and then reapply chains, a compromise that works well for us, and is worth consideration is that if I am sleeping in chains and need to rise for any reason I remove my chains and do not put them back on. Keep in mind the chains must be easily and quickly removed because sick children cannot wait while mum struggles to remove herself from bondage.
If your children are still of the age where they enter into your bedroom in the middle of the night because the dark is scary and they simply need you, bedtime bondage in any form is of course something that has to remain a dream for a while longer.
Do not expect to play/scene every night once living 24/7. Life gets in the way and sometimes either Dominant or submissive will simply be too tired. A huge amount of satisfaction can be found for both parties just by relaxing watching television and talking about the day. In this activity the submissive if comfortable can be sitting at the feet of the Dominant with her head resting on his knee. It is vital to remember 24/7 D/s can be achieved discreetly it does not have to be “in your face”.
Be prepared for those times when you have planned that huge night of play and little Johnny or Mary gets sick and play to be cancelled. I have yet to meet a Mother who can be submissive and receptive when the children are sick or when they have spent the day listening to the children bickering and making poor mum worn to a frazzle.
Likewise the Dominant who has just spent an hour battling traffic to get home may not feel like walking in the door and picking up the flogger. More than likely he is going to walk in and have to settle for a drink or a coffee, while the submissive does her best to settle the children and prepare the dinner.
Keep your ideas of 24/7 D/s realistic; simple things can be done to make your lives special and more in tune with the net version of 24/7. For example always serve your Dominant his meal or drink first, this can be done regardless of who is sharing your table.
Can it work? Oh yes!! Are you likely to be able to live like “O?” Not if you have children and you and your dominant have jobs and lives outside the home. Tailor your expectations to fit your reality and you’ll find that 24/7 is a very real, satisfying possibility.
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